A Confidence Self Help Test For
Connecting With Your Soul Mate!

A confidence self help test for anyone who feels that it’s time to meet and hookup with a real partner. As far as romantic relationships go you’re mature, because you’ve experienced many relationships and yet, up to this point, none of those relationships were what you’d call ideal.

Sure, you’ve had your share of fun, good and bad times, love, happiness and pain, but upon reflection none of your partners really hit the spot for you. Still, you stayed in some of those relationships primarily because you felt it was better than being alone; until the pain became unbearable.

And now after several, sometimes shallow, romantic hits you’re eager to meet and share some time with a real partner, a deep lifetime friend. The suggestions outlined in this confidence self help test will help you to prepare yourself for meeting such a true friend, a soul mate to share ecstasy and real love with you

'It is the combination of thought and love which forms the irresistible force of the law of attraction.' Charles Hannel - 1866 - 1949

A Confidence Self Help Test - Loving Yourself

Whatever romantic situations or experiences you’ve been through in the past; after your last romantic encounter, rather than rushing out and looking for someone to fill the emptiness you were feeling, you took a step back for a while.

Sure you did. You stepped back for a month, six months, a year, five years or for however long it’s not important. You did this because a part of you realized that in order for you to attract and experience true love in your life, you first had to find a way to truly love yourself, unconditionally.

You realized that in order to connect with and share true love from another, you’d have to do what it takes to be happy and love yourself first. And you realized that part of the process of self love means being OK with your own company, being happy and feeling good on your own.

Yes, you knew that you’d rather be alone than with a partner who doesn’t love themselves; because you’ve understood that it’s impossible to share that which you do not know you possess or that which you’ve covered up with something else as discussed on this self help relationship page.

A Confidence Self Help Test - Identifying a Soul Mate

Fantastic, you love yourself and you know who you are. Now, for those people wanting a romantic partner, the next step of this confidence self help test is identifying the kind of person you’d like to share some of your life with, your soul mate.

If you’re vague about your own preference then that’s the reflection and hence the kind of person that the impersonal Universe will most likely bring to you. The sooner you identify the kind of person who meets your preference, the sooner you’ll meet the person you prefer.

Take your time with identifying the kind of person you desire. Not because you don’t already know, but rather because in really thinking about this, you’ll have an opportunity to identify any self-limiting thoughts and beliefs which may be holding you apart from your ideal soul mate.

Be honest. We all have preferences and our preferences determine the kind of people we’d like to spend our time with. You like the looks of this person, but not the looks of another. What’s wrong with that? Nothing’s wrong with that, it’s your preference, nothing more and nothing less.

'They do not love who do not show their love.'
William Shakespeare - 1564 - 1616

A Confidence Self Help Test - Getting Practical about a Soul Mate

Remembering that we all create our own version of the reality we want to experience, by believing and trusting; realize that you can definitely meet a soul mate who looks as you prefer, has the kind of personality you prefer and has a body shape and style that you really like.

So this confidence self help test says get practical. Cut out photos from magazines and make an image book containing ideal looking partners. Search for images that meet your preference and save these to a folder on your computer.

You can then browse these photos often to reinforce the image you're creating in your mind and thus, are sending out to the Universe through your imagination. You could even add these photos to a screensaver as explained on this free self help article page.

Join free online dating services. Not necessarily with the intention of meeting anyone from them, but to identify the looks and physical attributes of the kinds of people you prefer. Save the images of your preferred people in the 'custom hot list' or 'favorite’s folder' that’s a part of your user account.

Remember, you’re not searching, you’re building up an image of a perfect person who fits your preference. So go easy with this, have a light, happy and care-free attitude with this practical confidence self help process. And remember that there’s no judgment of your preference because there’s no judge!

A Confidence Self Help Test – Believing and Feeling a Soul Mate

Indeed, the only judge or censor of your own preferences is you. That’s right. So if you’re clear about your preference, the only things preventing an exact match or a soul mate from coming into your life right now are your own self-limiting thoughts and beliefs, which cause negative feelings.

Suppose you’re a 40 year old man and you’d like to have a relationship with a 24 year old woman because you’re strongly attracted to that kind of person. That’s your preference because it’s what feels right to you. There’s not really anything else to say about this, it’s just a preference.

In our limitless, boundless Universe we certainly can choose the kind of partner, any kind of partner who fits our preference, but do you really believe that? Or do you have beliefs which are counter to your own intention of meeting the soul mate of your dreams? Let’s find out.

Whenever you think about and imagine having a relationship with the kind of person you prefer, notice how it feels to you. And notice any related thoughts which are running through your mind too. Does it feel good or are there any negative feelings associated with your thinking pattern?

Your thoughts on this subject are causing these feelings within you. If you have no issue with the idea of meeting a soul mate consistent with your preference and you always feel good about it; then your meeting of that person is imminent and not far away from realization, congratulations

However, when considering such a relationship, if you continually and consistently output feelings which don’t feel good to you; then you’ll automatically attract circumstances which won’t feel good to you either. And so the cycle of the lack of your preferred relationship will continue.

'We will always tend to fulfill our own expectation of ourselves. Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy. Whatever you believe with feeling becomes your reality.'
Brian Tracy - www.briantracy.com

A Confidence Self Help Test – Dissolving Your Barriers

Suppose you’re attracted to a person who’s a lot younger or a lot older than you or someone, who, in your estimation, is too good looking for you. Or maybe they’re from a different cultural background or they’re higher or lower on the perceived social scale; it doesn’t matter!

You’re attracted to and you want a person like that and you genuinely believe that a relationship with the kind of person you desire and prefer is possible, fine. Now become aware of and recognize that at the same time you may have many thoughts going on telling you why it’s not possible.

This kind of mental action is what I call a short circuit because you’re countering your own intention. Thus, you’re not a vibrational match to the person of your own preference and you’re limiting the probability or blocking the possibility of meeting this person due to your conflicting thoughts and beliefs.

Now through this confidence self help test, let’s identify some common self-limiting thoughts and beliefs:

• I’m not really worthy of her love - who cares?

• People will think she’s way too old for me - so what?

• My friends will think I’m a cradle snatcher - who cares?

• They’ll think I’m only with him for his money - so what?

• They’ll wonder why I’ve been alone for so long - who cares?

• My parents won’t like my interracial relationship - so what?

• My last partner dumped me, I’m not good enough - who cares?

• He’s way too handsome for me, I’m not pretty enough - so what?

Confidence Self Help Test - Who Cares?

Consider the confidence self help test statements above or identify and replace them with your own self-limiting thoughts and beliefs. Then ask yourself: how do I know what anyone else is thinking? What does it mean anyway and who is it that cares about what other people think?

It’s your own personality and sense of self that cares about these things; the part of you that fears, worries and believes in outside influence and judgment. And that means there’s still a residue of your ego-self that’s exercising some control over your thinking process.

While to a large extent you may have ceased judging external things and people, devaluing and judging yourself is judgment nonetheless. The ego-self is the part of you that compares, measures and condemns. Its actions can be very subtle and that’s why constant awareness of your thoughts is prudent.

Confidence Self Help Test - So What?

We live in a meaningless Universe. It’s like our whole life is a blank meaningless slate onto which we inscribe meaning. It’s up to us to provide everything in our life with the meaning that feels good to us.

If you really think about it the statements above don’t mean anything, because they don’t contain any built-in meaning of their own. Thus,
the only meaning any of them has is the meaning which you impose
upon them.

So what if someone thinks this or that about your preference, why does it matter to you? Realize that those who think in terms of judging your preference, by definition, have not dealt with their own ego-self.

'But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.'
Kahlil Gibran – 1883 - 1931

A Confidence Self Help Test - Realizing a Soul Mate

Know that in truth, all versions of the kinds of partner you want are available to you. You’re the creator of your reality and consciousness, being infinite and unlimited, always contains and will yield to you whatever kind of relationship that you want to explore, always.

Therefore, realize that the soul mate who comes into your experience is someone who’s been working their way to you, in the same way that you’ve been working your way to them. All of the events of both of your lives have led to your meeting and soul connection, how cool is that

It’s not that there’s only one possible
soul mate who can be your counterpart,
there may be many candi-dates or delicious
people who fit the bill of your preference.

Remember that consciousness is at the root of everything, consciousness is one. There’s no real separation, there’s only different perspectives or points of view of the one same consciousness. All reality springs forth from consciousness and there’s nothing outside of consciousness.

One important message of this confidence self help test, is to realize that when we have a desire or a yearning for something, it came from consciousness. And thus, by its very nature the counterpart of our desire, automatically, by definition, must exist; the desire contains its counterpart, it’s like the two sides of the same coin, one cannot exist without the other.

Even if you can’t quite see this, you have to find a way to believe that an ideal partner or soul mate does exist for you, in the same way that you exist for them. And your only real work is to relax into this knowing and do your best not to worry or doubt a positive soul connection

A Confidence Self Help Test – Controlling the Game

While we can create rules which control the parameters of any game, such as football, baseball or soccer etcetera; we have no control over the in the moment action of any of the players of the game. Everyone has free will to choose and decide how they’ll play in any given moment.

In a similar way, we can deliberately control the essence of what the Universe will bring to us in this game of life, but we have no control over the individual people who’re players within it. Everyone has free will and preference and they can and will choose their own actions.

Let’s say that you’re fixated on a particular person, whom you believe you simply must have as a romantic partner. You could spend plenty of time devising ways in which you believe you’ll somehow be able to manipulate this game and get that person to be with you. That’s misspent time!

Sure, if you like someone you must express your interest in them and let them know that you’d like to share some time with them. However, if they’re not interested in you, you’re not their preference, so stop wasting time in a romantic direction towards them; be friends with them by
all means.

Holding on to an obsession will make you crazy and only serves to keep what’s wanted away from you. Think of it this way: the longer you spend pushing against a wanted circumstance that won’t serve you anyway, the longer it will take for the Universe to line you up with your perfect match.

And do you really believe that Universal consciousness doesn’t know, even better than you know yourself, who’s a perfect match for you? The all knowing Universe has a soul mate lined up for you, who’s even better for you than you can imagine; believe it

'If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were.' Kahlil Gibran – 1883 - 1931

A Confidence Self Help Test - Postponing the Soul Connection

If you meet someone who almost fits, but the true feelings of love are not present within you, then that’s probably not the ideal person or soul mate either. You could still choose to spend time with them or even enter
a relationship.

But all of this sideline activity will not bring
you closer to your ideal soul mate; unless of
course you’re not yet ready for a soul mate!

If you are ready then why accept anything less than the right person, a true soul connection, your soul mate? Use your feelings and discernment to know when you’ve found your soul mate, your other.

As a guide, this confidence self help test observes that: if there’s strong doubt then s/he’s not the one!

And bear in mind that once the timing’s right and only at that time can the person of your dreams enter your life and not before. So please relax and enjoy your life, while knowing that, ultimately, your soul mate will materialize into your life, guaranteed!

To your using this confidence self help test to assist you with realizing and connecting with a soul mate who’s perfect for you

REMEMBER - YOU GOTTA BELIEVE IT!