This psychology self help shortcuts page
will help you to understand the subtle psychology of your mind and how
you unconsciously keep yourself rooted in fear. Learn how to break free
of this psychological loop by becoming more consciously aware of your mental
habits and the consequent automatic behavior which follows.
Upon examining your own mind and behavior, in many cases you'll realize that it's your own fears which prevent you from doing the things you want to do. Read what's being said here to become more self-empowered, and enable yourself to change your automatic unconscious thoughts and behavior to better serve you.
Furthermore, by studying these psychology self help insights, my sincere wish for you is that you'll reach an understanding that self awareness and self love are far more important than other people’s opinions. And ultimately you’ll realize that outside of your mind: there’s really nothing to hide and nothing to fear in life.
There are many psychological shortcuts to understanding what life’s about. During the past few years I've been blessed, in the form of continually receiving inspired ideas for creating very short reminders to self-awareness, similar to the one below. I love receiving these insights and I’m happy to share some of them with you.
Upon the first reading of this psychology self help shortcut, you might not notice any difference between the two statements, so let’s break it down and go into more detail in order to clarify what's meant by this psychological insight and reminder.
You’ve probably noticed this in yourself and in other people:
Sometimes, for no apparent reason you lie about any number of things. Sure you do, most people do. When asked certain questions by friends or family, business colleagues or acquaintances etcetera, quite often, you’ll lie, almost automatically, for no real reason. Observe your interactions with others and you’ll see the lies.
Now, once the lie has been told you’ve put yourself in the position of having to remember what you said to whom. In other words you’ve allowed for the possibility of being found out or exposed as a liar, due to your unconscious habitual lying and so, psychologically, you may have something to fear or to be embarrassed about at a later time.
Let's say that a friend tells you a story about how he just witnessed an accident involving two cars and a truck and one person was killed. Later on, you repeat this story to other friends with your added distortion or embellishment. And now the story is about four cars, two trucks and many were dead with blood everywhere.
And now, as you’re telling this embellished story, the friend who actually witnessed the accident enters the room, corrects you and comments on your beefing up and embellishment of the scene that he witnessed. And now you feel embarrassed as your friends laugh at the incident.
Does it really matter? Not at all, but seeing it does lead you to ask questions about the unconscious action of your mind. For instance: You might ask yourself: what need in me is being fulfilled by this embellishment? And, why do I feel the need to enhance my sense of importance through this beefing up and distortion?
Actually I don’t really care about lies or truth in these matters, but as I’ve decided to live my life without any kind of unnecessary fear, I generally no longer lie about things, unless there’s a good reason to do so.
To eradicate this habit of lying, I suggest that you start by consciously replacing your habit of lying with the habit of being real and generally speaking the truth to others, then you’ll have nothing to hide and hence nothing to fear and your mind will be relaxed and you'll be free to enjoy your journey through life
By remembering the first part of this psychology self help reminder, you’ll become more aware of your mind as you interact with people and you’ll be less inclined to unconsciously, spontaneously and thus habitually lie about everyday things, unless there’s a good reason for it.
Outside of your psyche there’s really nothing to fear. So why live your life in torment by believing that you have
something to hide, such as a so-called negative past action, when
really, in truth, there’s nothing to hide? Sure, you
can choose to focus on so-called negative past events or projected
future outcomes, in which you imagine negative scenarios, but your past and future really only exist in your mind, they have no reality for you outside of your mind!
Everything happens right Now, not in the past or the future, which are fictional states of your mind. Thus, the only true reality is the reality that we create and experience Now. This being the case, why choose to define, believe in, focus upon and hence create experiential realities in which any form of fear or negativity exists?
Through your free will, you are free to choose to believe that you have something to hide, something that will be revealed at a later date that will somehow expose you. But again, this psychology self help shortcut reminds you that these fears of past actions are all in your mind, they have no reality outside of your mind!
Let’s say that fifteen years ago, following your desire for fun, daring and money, you broke into a shop with a friend and stole some stuff. You sold the stuff on and made some money, but you never did that again, because soon afterwards you felt bad about the incident. So what? That’s done now, it’s over!
There’s no need to keep that story alive in your mind. Acknowledge it, thank it and release it once and for all. When you think about it, the person who stole that stuff was not even you. All of life is in a constant state of flux, and so, the person you are Now is not who you were fifteen years ago, who you are is forever changing.
Furthermore, due to the nature of the universal law of attraction, the very act of paying attention to any perceived negativity and dwelling upon it, means there’s a strong likelihood that the vibration of it will resurface in you and may be revealed to others. Whatever you believe that you feel the need to hide, don’t worry about it because, there’s really nothing to hide.
Notice how the thought process of your own mind frequently stops you from saying or doing certain things. You don't do this or that because "they" might think this or that about you. So the action of your mind and the consequent behavior which follows keeps you from saying or doing what you want to say or do.
And I ask you: who really cares and what difference does it make what other people think? I doubt there's anyone reading this who's never done anything that at the time or shortly afterwards they’ve regretted. So it’s always best to suspend your suspicions and your judgment and replace it with unconditional love.
Inquiring deeply into your mind, by being aware of how you think, you’ll see that your fear and belief regarding this subject normally reveals to you that you have an underlying fear of what other people think of you. In other words you place a higher value on what others think, believe and say about you than on what you think, believe and say about you, you care about what other people think!
The important message of this psychology self help shortcut is: it really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. The most important thing is your own love of self, which includes forgiveness, compassion and understanding, as explained on this self help relationship page.
That completes this psychology self help inquiry. And as you can see from these short statements which act as reminders and shortcuts to psychological understanding, we’ve gained a whole lot of awareness concerning this subject.
Nothing to Hide – Nothing to Fear – Nothing to Fear – Nothing to Hide
Nearly everything written on this page can be condensed into these short statements, which are simple to remember.
You'll discover many psychological shortcuts throughout this website, all to help to remind you to be more aware of
the action of your mind. I’ve discovered that awareness of the action of our mind is
the key to understanding greater truths that heretofore we may not have
been consciously aware of. Many more psychological reminders are available in the Awakening Kit, as indicated on this self help kit page.
There's nothing to fear in life, other than the fear that we imagine and convince ourselves of and then believe to be true. I believe that life is meant to be easy, not hard. Life is meant to be fun, not serious. Life is meant to be enjoyed, not spent in worry, doubt or fear. Life is Now, always Now!
Here’s to you reaching this truth and understanding by reminding yourself to remember in the shortest time
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