I know of several self help authors who understand the importance and usefulness of transcending the fear of death. And from their perspective of realizing the truth about the idea of death, those authors are able to incorporate that wisdom into their writing to help us to also see and to understand the truth about death.
However, it’s important to be clear about which
authors disseminate helpful information about life and death and how you
can find their work, thus I’ll provide a list of such authors. And then on this
inspired shortcuts page,
I’ll continue by reporting on some of the things I’ve personally learned and have realized about both life and death.
For the sake of clarity, I believe that any self help authors who help us to understand the true nature of death, truly help us to understand and help our self. Because once we move beyond the fear of death we look at life from an entirely new direction resulting in a new self-empowering understanding
Below is a list of people whom I consider to be self help authors who touch on life and death through their writing. In addition to listing these authors I’ve also indicated the relevant categories or genres of their work. Thus, you’ll know where to browse for their books, be it in a library, in a bookshop or via the Internet:
As you can see, books from the self help authors above might be listed under a number of categories, not necessarily including or limited to self help. The above list is organized by the approximate order in which I discovered these self help authors. This list has no relevance to the importance of the work of these authors nor the order in which you may choose to read about their observations or study their teachings.
Over the years I’ve noticed that very many people are afraid of death. When someone close to them or even someone they casually knew dies, most people immediately react from a place of fear. And then quite often these well-meaning people then offer their, fear-based, unsolicited advice to friends and others.
They offer advice such as: "Please drive safely," "be extra careful," "you ought to use your seat-belt," "you must wear a crash helmet!" and "you should get a medical checkup etcetera." In other words they advise us: don’t do this, better to do that. But is their well-meaning advice really necessary or even actually helpful?
After studying the work of a variety of self help authors and observing the action of my own mind, these days I question the helpfulness of advice such as that indicated above. Because people offering advice from a place of fear haven’t really, deeply, contemplated their own inevitable death and so they seem to be rooted in fear!
In my view, to reach a place where we’re no longer afraid of death we must reach that place where we’re no longer attached to life. That is to say, in order to contemplate the idea of our physical death we must first fully examine and contemplate the idea of life and what it means to have a life experience - and then we’ll know what death really is.
Let’s start by examining the things that we actually know about life. I don’t mean all of the endless details pertaining to an individual’s life experience; I mean what’s common to everyone living a life. I’ll start by stating what’s been taught to me by certain self help authors and what I now personally know beyond doubt.
Right now in this moment and at this place, I’m alive and living my life. In other words I exist and I exist here and now. After diligently inquiring and researching I discovered that time and space are illusions, and that there’s only here and now and no other time or place, as indicated on this inspired self help topics page. Once I understood that, it logically followed that because I exist here and now I’ve always existed and I always will exist!
There’s a larger part of me, my soul, that’s eternal. When my soul, which is multi-dimensional and exists at a vibrational frequency range that’s outside of the concept of time, decided to incarnate into a physical body here on earth, it sent a piece of itself, my spirit, for this purpose. And because the vibrational frequency range of the realm of souls and spirits is the underlying reality which connects and holds everything together, the piece of incarnated soul, my spirit, that's occupying my current physical being, always remains connected to the whole soul.
Put differently, the idea of separation is a lower vibrational frequency level interpretation of the underlying reality. We chose to forget our connection in order to play our game of remembering. However, in truth communication between the spirit and the soul is continuous throughout our lives for anyone who’s tuned in and thus, is listening.
Now, unless we can actually consciously remember what happened when we died at the end (relatively speaking) of one of our other incarnations or life experiences, then we don’t really know what happens to our consciousness at the time of our physical death. Right? We simply choose what to believe and we believe it!
Then the question arises: why believe in anything other than a positive after death experience? Put another way, we all have free will to think and to believe whatever we want to about death or the ending of this particular life experience, so why choose to project a negative outcome?
As some self help authors advised me: at the end of the day, whatever we choose to believe in is only an idea or a story that we make up and convince ourselves of anyway. Our ideas and stories about life and death aren’t true per se, but they can serve us by helping to point us in a direction where ultimate truth can be known.
Throughout our life we all pick up various negative ideas of death, from our family, friends, peers, religion and society etcetera, and it’s up to us to unravel all of that. Personally, these days I can’t see how any kind of negative idea of death is useful or even helpful. Get uplifted by reading what this self help guru says about eternal life.
Inspired by a few self help authors, I choose to believe that at the time of my death I’ll wake up and realize that the life experience I just had was a dream. I’ll fully re-member or re-connect to the greater part of me, my soul. I choose to believe that my soul has always existed in a state of pure bliss in a place called heaven the only "real" place there is.
After "hanging out" in heaven for let’s say 1,000 years, to use an arbitrary number, I’ll incarnate into another existential dream, solely for the love and pure joy of peeking into yet another rabbit hole. OK, ok, there may be other reasons that I don’t know about or can’t remember at this timing, but if or when I need to know them, I know that I’ll know.
As a soul, who I really am, I have zero fear of sending a piece of myself, my spirit, into any dream state. Because I know that the power of the love I hold for myself is so great that no matter what reality I’ve delved into, ultimately I’ll be drawn back to the greater part of me, my soul self, like a snapping rubber band. And hence, there’s never a need to fear death
So seen in that way, the way certain authors see it and how I choose to believe, death isn’t something to be feared, it’s something to be celebrated. After all, why mourn someone who’s "hanging out'" in a state of pure bliss while floating in an ocean of love surrounded by eternal friends and lovers while having the time of their after-life?
What is death anyway?
De - Energize - And - Travel - Home - death is a withdrawing of focus and attention from the material world of dreams and returning home to where you’ve always been. By no longer focusing upon physical reality you withdraw your energy from it so it ceases to exist for you, but the soul state always and forever remains and thus, heaven is the only place to return to.
So in that sense, I’m sure that no one who’s currently dead wants anyone still in the dream state to be unhappy on their behalf, it just doesn’t make any sense to me. I’m sure that some self help authors see death in the same way as I do - as a new beginning and a continuation of the life that we forever are. Simply because there can be no ending to life for life is eternal!
Well, one thing’s for sure you certainly can get stuck in your mind in all kinds of morbidity and self-imposed beliefs as to the fairness and the rightness or wrongness of death, when there isn’t any. But again, ultimately that’s your choice and it’ll always be up to you to decide and to choose what to believe.
Another certainty is that having this understanding enables you to move fearlessly through your life and live in peace and joy. After all, knowing beyond doubt that there’s no real death, no ending to the life that you are is definitely self-empowering. You can’t really fail in life anyway, simply because you’ve already succeeded in creating a life for yourself in this dream state that we call reality
A common dialogue I hear from people after someone has left this earth plain is concerning the sadness and pity for those who have been left behind. And at these times one has to be extremely careful about which words are used or risk a full on attack from ill-informed mourners.
Here's my understanding: from the soul level, the kind of life chosen will most
represent the requirements of the soul. Once we’re in the life as a
consciously aware being, know it or not, accept it or not we do create our own experience of reality as we go along.
Many self help authors have advised me that this being true, even if an individual is asleep or unaware of the fact that they chose their current life experience, there’s no need for pity or sorrow because those kinds of circumstances are perfect for the evolution of their soul.
Anyway, as many self help authors will tell you, whatever situation a person finds themselves in they always have full power through their own self-awareness and free will to change it into something preferred.
For more truth on life and death, I highly recommend reading the excellent Conversations with God trilogy, by Neale Donald Walsch. Besides, you owe it to your soul to do so!
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